For the next two weeks, here on The Window we’ll be featuring profiles of the amazing individuals featured in our Brothers, Sisters, Sons & Daughters campaign, shot in New York by the iconic photographer Bruce Weber.
Biographer and journalist Patricia Bosworth interviewed each of the 17 models, capturing a chapter of their edifying stories. We’re delighted to share Eve Lindley and her father Brad’s story with you below.
Brad: I have to admit I was initially excited to have a son. I was thrilled at the idea of football and tinkering with electric trains. But I noticed early on that he was interested in more female stuff. I didn’t want him to be unhappy. I loved him then and I love her now.
Eve: He started buying me Barbie dolls and doll furniture.
Brad: Yeah, I eventually built an entire Barbie house, and you know something? I enjoyed it! Is it fair to say that you were forbidden to play with the Barbies in your mother’s house?
Eve: Yeah. In some families only one parent approves of a child’s gender switch—in my case, my birth mother didn’t go for it. My parents got divorced when I was two. Dad and she had joint custody…but by the time I was in the seventh grade I’d moved full-time to my Dad’s and I was raised by him and my super stepmom Andy.
We became our own family unit—we lived in this little cottage. I had a curtain that served as the “door” to my room. It was fun being so close. My sisters were still living with my mother—she’d been resistant to me experimenting with my gender. But then she came around.
At first I struggled with the feeling that I just wasn’t pretty enough.
Brad: I kept telling her I envisioned a very beautiful woman down the road. There were no surprises. She looks wonderful today, doesn’t she?
While Evie was transitioning, I’d go with her to the doctors and psychologists. I wanted to understand the process. It’s complicated—a parent does have doubts, anxieties, about possible surgeries in the future. A big decision. We confront everything. Evie began taking hormones when she was eighteen. She was discovering her gender identity and she was all caught up in it.
We moved to a community in the suburbs where none of our neighbors questioned Evie’s decision to switch genders. For a while we were in a place that wasn’t tolerant. It’s important to live in a place that is accepting, that doesn’t ever pass judgment. But I guess the most important thing for me is that throughout this journey I’ve always listened to her and supported her in what she was doing. Bottom line: I have tried to empower her to become what she wanted to be. This entire experience has been a big challenge, but nothing can’t be handled with a heart full of love.
Eve: I don’t know what I would have done without my Dad. I don’t think I’d be here if it weren’t for him. He’s always been my biggest supporter.
Eve wears Bottega Veneta and Brad wears his own clothes.